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Wednesday, August 24, 2005

Thirty-ninth Question

Do you hold a past grievance (big or small) that still bothers you? Are you willing to let go of it? If so, describe it here and then allow yourself to be released from it. If not, hold onto it as long as needed and come back when you are ready to let it go.

Feel free to post anonymously if you'd rather....


  • At 10:15 AM, Blogger Sublime said…

    I would like to release a grievance I've held against my Dad's new wife for quite a long time.

    After the death of my grandfather (my Dad's Dad) she went to help sort through my grandfather's house with us. There were several things of my grandfather's that I wanted to have. With each item I asked for, I was told, "No, SHE wants that". I ended up taking a few minor things (without their knowledge) that meant a lot to me.

    Not only have I always felt bad for taking the items, but also held anger against HER for claiming most of my grandfather's things for herself. I'm now willing to let this go and finally heal the part of me that's held onto these thoughts.

    I have many others, but this is a good

  • At 11:13 AM, Blogger nancy =) said…

    i've paid lots of money to lots of therapists and sat in many a church basement ridding my life of i only have silly ones that last about 42 seconds...

  • At 12:20 PM, Blogger babyjewels said…

    Oh, Sublime. This is a tough one. I'm going to have to come back.

  • At 12:37 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    To my fathers father. After my dad was killed in an auto accident, which was during my parents divorce. He was made sole beneficiary of my fathers estate. So he inhereted all this money. Now correct me if Im wrong if your a parent and you take out a life insurance policy on yourself is it not to provide for your children if god forbid anything were to happen to you?
    Then he proceeded to try to sue the county on his on behalf for neglegence, and denied my father had any legal heirs.
    Lastly the son of a bitch wouldnt let the car that held my brother and myself in the front of the funeral percession???
    Money does messed up shit to people. It amazes me he can live with himself.
    I hear hes dying of cancer so I guess karma or god or whomever made it right in the long run.

    Oddly enough they are very devote catholics, so its so strange to me that a person could do this too 2 young children who had just lost thier father.
    My mother pulled us up by her boot straps so to speak, going to night school getting her BSN and suppoting us...well.
    But for awhile there we were on welfare and food stamps,my brother was a sickly child and it was overall tough on her and us.
    But while we were struggeling my grandfather vacationed it Hawaii.
    Ill get over this when I confront him on his death bed and plan to make a scene at the funeral, in front of all my fathers 10 brothers and sister asking them why they never went to bat for us kids.

  • At 3:34 PM, Blogger AKH said…

    Sorry Sublime, I'm not ready to give up any of my grievances just yet.

  • At 8:16 PM, Blogger SassyFemme said…

    i can't always forgive, and I rarely forget. Nothing for me to add here today.

  • At 8:40 PM, Blogger Blogzie said…

    Darling, we must all harbor a few grudges, otherwise what's the point?

  • At 10:03 PM, Blogger Jan said…

    A rude bitchy nurse I used to work with. She was mean/rude to everyone, fellow employees, patients, families and visitors.
    After 1 1/2 years of tolerating this I told her off one day. She was never rude to me but continued with others. She just never got it. Worst part of it she was a charge know the one that sets an example for others.
    Since she no longer works there I guess I can let it go....but, she is and always be a bitch in my book.

  • At 10:04 PM, Blogger Bent Fabric said…

    Excellent question. There are too many grievances that I hold on to. If I waited until they were gone to come back, I'd be gone an awfully long time. I'm so jaded.

  • At 11:47 PM, Blogger Kris said…

    Mine's ongoing...I am the one person in both of my families that ever plans anything, I do ALL the work spend all the money and they get all the enjoyment. I rarely ever get a true thank you. I have decided that I will not be planning anything else ever. This is my way of letting it go.


  • At 8:29 AM, Blogger It's My Life said…

    I shouldn't still hold it, it's been a couple years...I still hold grievances against someone who used to be very important to me. I tell him I've forgiven, but the truth is, I'll never forgive him for what he did. Never...well I shouldn't say never, what I should say is that I'm not ready to forgive yet.

  • At 1:44 PM, Blogger TinaPoPo said…

    Just typing this right now makes it sound ridiculous, but...when I was in 7th grade my best friend completely dropped me, with no explanation. She was a bitch like that. In the end, I made better friends, but that one always hurt.

  • At 4:50 PM, Blogger JB said…

    I do have a list which is probably too long to completely dispose of, but here are a few:

    1)My mother - for making me feel like shit without even trying; for knowing that I'd been molested and doing nothign about it; for never telling me even once that I was (or am) beautiful; for setting me up to worry about what others think; for forcing the abortion.....

    2)The Molestor - for violenty snatching away a 5 or 6 year olds (I can't remember exactly how young I was) vulnerability and purity for your sick amusement.

    3)The 4 or 5 Adults who watched this man lick and finger a small child and not do gawdamn thing but stand their and watch and/or cheer him on.

    4)Stevien Wienberg - for calling me pizza face in 7th grade when I had such a terrible crush on you.

    5)Sonia R. - for moving away a couple of years ago and then dropping off the face of the earth, never to be heard of again. You were my best friend and you vanished as if our friendship meant nothing

  • At 9:29 PM, Blogger RED QUILT MAKER said…

    I'm always nursing one grievance or another.
    I like them and I don't want to give them up.
    Often instead of sitting to meditate, I sit to nurse my grievances.
    They're fun, they keep me on my toes. They remind me not to let another person control my feelings and thoughts. They don't hold me back, they push me forward.
    I've got one going right now against someone who caused pain to a certain blogger we all know and care about.

  • At 10:53 PM, Blogger Elizabeth Taylor said…

    Oh sure. I'll let go of it (them) when I'm damn good and ready.


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