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Friday, February 03, 2006

One Hundred and Fifty Eighth Question

How do you know if you love someone or are "in love" with someone? Is there a difference? If you've been with that person for a long time, does it really matter?

12 Comments:

  • At 11:06 AM, Blogger Tatted said…

    i believe there is a diff in loving and being in love!

    I have been with T for 14 years, and with Monkey for 2... I am so very much "in love" with them both! Usually after a while, it seems the newness of a relationship wears off, and then it is just love, this has not happened with me! I am in love with them! I love them more every day, just like a new relationship, where you just can't get enough!

    Monkey always says "love" is an action word...

    Thats just my two cents...

    Always

     
  • At 5:31 PM, Blogger bjk said…

    I am in love with my husband and have loved him for 30 years. True not every day am I IN LOVE with him but every day I do choose to love him...

     
  • At 6:19 PM, Blogger Mr. Incredulous said…

    Being "in love," I believe, is fleeting, and based primarily (not solely) on emotion. It is a status that is easily betrayed, and consequently manipulated. Loving has more permanence and relevance to the person you are sharing a relationship with.

     
  • At 1:33 AM, Blogger nancy =) said…

    i left a long-winded answer here yesterday and it disappeared...i think blogger is spacing out...

    peace...

     
  • At 3:27 AM, Blogger alan said…

    30 years ago I thought I was in love with my wife; I truly believed it. Looking back, I had no idea what the word meant; it evolves as we do, changes with each day and change in life itself. I've been lucky; she put up with me through all of it, undeserving though I am. Why is beyond me, but I'm grateful!

    alan

     
  • At 4:06 AM, Blogger Sublime said…

    I think blogger is spacing out Nancy!

    If you answered this question, and your answer isn't here, plaease re-post it.

    Thank you!
    Sublime

     
  • At 10:59 AM, Blogger Blogzie said…

    The beginning of love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image. Otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them.

    ---Thomas Merton

    x0x0x

     
  • At 12:45 PM, Anonymous Anonymous said…

    I was married for 20 years and am now divorced, even today I don't know if i ever really loved him.

    I am in a relationship now and enjoy it very much (3 years) but I cannot figure out what love is supposed to feel like.

     
  • At 9:15 PM, Blogger nancy =) said…

    well as i said i left a long answer that got eaten but i cannot rest till i put in my 2 cents:

    being "in love", to me, is the newness of a relationship...the lust...the infatuation...the "i can't wait to see this person tonight"...the difference between "in love" and "love", for me is, after 20+ years of ups and downs, there isn't anyone else you could imagine being with...you no longer need to be with this person 24/7, cuz you've grown together and can now give each other some space, but given a choice, this is the person you'd want to be hanging with more than anyone else...

    what a ramble, huh?

    peace...

     
  • At 9:56 AM, Blogger Sublime said…

    This message was posted Saturday by Bent Fabric, but for some reason Blogger ate the comment:

    "If I'm attracted to her when she does the most mundane things like take out the trash I know I'm in love.

    I guess the difference is passion, for lack of a better word. If after the honeymoon faze, I still feel a passion for her then I know it's more than just love.

    I love my cat, but I'm not passionate about him. lol

    Hope that made sense."

     
  • At 4:11 AM, Blogger Elizabeth Taylor said…

    There's no difference. It's just a matter of 'newness.'

     
  • At 10:45 PM, Blogger Jiminypink said…

    When you love someone, you ask them if they brushed their teeth b-4 kissing. When your in love, you don't ask, you deal with it.

     

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